Wherever perfectionism is driving, shame is riding shotgun. Perfectionism is not about healthy striving, which you see all the time in successful leaders, it’s not about trying to set goals and being the best we can be, perfectionism is basically a cognitive behavioral process that says if I look perfect, work perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid shame, ridicule, and criticism. It’s a defense mechanism.
"Why Doing Awesome Work Means Making Yourself Vulnerable"
So, I’ve been waiting for someone to explain this extremely simple concept to me my entire life.
Hooooly shit I needed to read this article.
IS BEING HYDRATED REALLY WORTH ALL THIS PEEING?
philostofhere asked: SPOILER**(but I figure you've seen it all) So what'd you think of Zaheer "letting go" and becoming air and flying??
I think the words that I literally said aloud were “this bitch can FLY?”
But I think it was an incredibly awesome addition to the little repertoire of cool shit airbending can do! I am a little concerned though about what that says if someone like that — someone willing to use any means to achieve their ends — can reach the ultimate level of detachment/spiritual wholeness. I think his willingness to kill other human beings “for the sake of the world” plus his ability to FLY kind of destroys Aang’s whole arc of holding true to his airbending belief system… If Aang, perfect wouldn’t-hurt-a-fly-but-maybe-a-giant-bee angel baby, can’t achieve that, why is it that possibly well-meaning but seriously misled Zaheer can? It does make me wonder though if detachment is the only way of achieving it, and it doesn’t have anything to do with actual spiritual purity. And it makes me wonder how the general airbender population actually viewed guru Laghima. His teachings obviously hold some weight, but using Aang as reference to airbending culture, his ideas seem pretty radical in comparison, especially when you consider how appalled Aang was by the idea of detaching himself from Katara. Complete detachment doesn’t seem like an intrinsic air nomad spiritual goal when you think about it.
Now I’m babbling so I’ll summarize with my earlier “this bitch can FLY?”
not that disabled Korra wouldn’t be awesome, but why is it that everybody jumped to the conclusion that her wheelchair usage was permanent? Plenty of people utilize wheelchairs temporarily when they are injured and they never specified why she was using it. I think that’s all that’s going on, I don’t think Korra is going to be magically “healed” like people are assuming? I think she just… recovers?
Today I colored the ends of my hair blue.
It’s the best decision I’ve made in a long time. My confidence has raised and my self image has gotten better all in a matter of hours.
I’m not sure how or why but I’m not going to complain.
I’m pretty satisfied with how I look right now and I don’t think I’m giving up the blue anytime soon.